Polyamory / Non-Monogamy / Open Relationship Counseling For Individuals
“Love, like a candle flame, is not diminished by being shared.”
My non-monogamy story
Before we get started, I want to share a bit of my own story.
For a long time, I believed something was wrong with me when it came to love. I found myself caring deeply for more than one person again and again, and struggling with the confines of monogamy. Despite my best intentions, the people I loved got hurt, as did I.
I wondered if I was broken, incapable of commitment, or just had “wandering eyes.” Those painful stories didn’t come from nowhere - they were everywhere: family, friends, movies, church, and yes, even therapy. I lived in a culture that could only see monogamy as the “right” way, the “natural” way.
About ten years ago, I began realizing that monogamy simply wasn’t fitting me. I dared to see the problem not as myself, but as the result of our culture’s limitations and blind spots.
When my partner at the time and I opened up, we made every mistake imaginable - we had no models, no mentors, no elders, and no roadmap. Most of us were only taught how to do monogamy, so we’ve had to fumble our way through. I honor the challenges you’ve gone through as you’ve explored this on your own, and I honor your tenacity in not giving up.
Over time, through many lessons and heartbreaks, I found my way. I’m now part of a loving, stable polycule with three wonderful partners. It’s still a journey, but it’s one grounded in honesty, growth, and care. We still hit bumps (we always will), but we’ve learned to use those bumps to grow closer together.
Take it from someone who learned the hard way - this can be done. And you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Whether you’re polyamorous, curious about opening up, or just realizing that monogamy may not be your path, I’d be honored to accompany your journey. On your request, I have hard-earned wisdom to share, in addition to my trainings, and my open heart. Let’s find your of doing this, together.
- Jack
And now, without further ado…
Therapy is hard enough without having to educate your therapist about polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, swinging, or what “relationship anarchy” or “metamore” mean. Fox Mind Counseling is a place you do not need to put on a teachers hat in the midst of your deepest challenges. It’s also not a space where you need to fear judgment from your therapist.
This is a space where your relationship structure, identity, and boundaries are respected, not pathologized. Whether you’re solo-poly, exploring open relationships, or long-term in a polycule, therapy can help you navigate the complexities of connection, communication, and emotional safety.
Polyamory and non-monogamy can be deeply fulfilling - and they can also bring up growth edges around trust, boundaries, jealousy, and self-worth. Therapy offers a place to slow down, name what’s happening beneath the surface, find clarity, and overcome any history which may make connecting the way you want to more challenging.
Support for Indivudals navigating Polyamory, Non-Monogamy, and Open Relationships
Working with a poly-affirming therapist means you don’t have to translate or defend your relationship choices. Instead, you can focus on what really matters:
Strengthening communication and emotional attunement
Navigating jealousy, insecurity, or fear of loss
Repairing ruptures and rebuilding trust
Clarifying agreements and boundaries
Managing time, energy, and emotional bandwidth
Exploring attachment styles and nervous system regulation
Processing cultural shame or stigma around non-monogamy
Supporting multiple relationships while staying grounded in yourself, and your needs
How Therapy Helps
Transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy
Wanting to rebuild connection after a boundary break
Feeling anxious about partners’ other relationships
Balancing autonomy and intimacy
Struggling with hierarchy, fairness, or unmet needs
Wanting to deconstruct old relationship beliefs
Needing support for emotional regulation or communication skills
Wanting to overcome a history which makes relationships challenging
You don’t have to figure it out alone - therapy can help you navigate these conversations with compassion and confidence.
Common Reasons People Seek Non-Monogamy-Affirming Therapy
Therapy is collaborative and paced to meet you where you are. Sessions might include:
Exploring what safety and security mean for you in non-monogamy
Using mindfulness or somatic tools to notice what happens in your body when difficult emotions arise
Building communication strategies that feel authentic - not scripted
Identifying core needs and values to guide relationship decisions
Unlearning internalized shame or fear about wanting multiple loves
Overcoming histories which make the relationships you want feel challenging, or ever impossible
Therapy focuses on supporting you - your nervous system, your voice, and your capacity to connect.
What to Expect in Sessions
This is an LGBTQ+-, kink-, and non-monogamy-affirming space. Your relationship style, gender, and sexuality are welcomed exactly as they are. Therapy isn’t about fitting into someone else’s definition of “healthy” - it’s about discovering what aligned, secure, and meaningful connection looks like for you.
Affirming, Non-Judgmental Care
Clearer communication and emotional honesty
Greater confidence navigating jealousy or comparison
Deeper self-trust and emotional regulation
Healthier boundaries with partners and self
More joy, ease, and authenticity in connection
Benefits Clients Often Notice
You deserve support that understands your relationships - and helps them thrive.
You deserve to feel secure and loved in each of your connections.
If you’re ready to feel more grounded, clear, and connected in your polyamorous or open relationships, I’m here to help you get there.
Reach out to Schedule a free consultation or to learn more about non-monogamy-affirming therapy.